Cyber Bully vs. Face to Face Bully

[Earthshine]

BOTH are equally bad. The real life bullies can hurt you physically and emotionally but go away when you get home; but the cyber bullies theoretically can NEVER go away and can be even more vicious in their taunts because there is no little to no means of policing them.

While I know for a fact that in some nations bullying is considered commonplace and to just be dealt with on a personal level with no teacher interaction; if you live in the USA or Canada (I can't say for certain other nations, sadly) teachers and schools most often WILL help and intervene to help victims of bullying. My entire school district over ten years ago passed a zero tolerance policy for bullying and deal with bullies HARSHLY (contacting parents, suspension, therapy for both sides, expulsion in some cases - usually in that order) to curb the problem.

The problem is with bullies is that it's rare that anything will change if it isn't reported by the victim or someone else like a teacher. While the saying "have a stiff upper lip" does ring true it shouldn't be done EVERYDAY when you are being TORMENTED.

I know how bad the first year of high school can be, you're awkward and so is most everyone in your class - you're at a new school and you're just figuring things out for yourself. Chances are that you haven't found a good solid friend yet as well, this is all normal. So while you might not have many friends yet that doesn't mean "no one likes you", maybe it's more accurate to say "no one knows me that well". But that the chances are in time people will get to know you and find out that you're really great!

It took me until my sophomore year until I had friends, real friends that I would hang out with outside of class.

As for bullying the best advice I can offer is REPORT it. Let those bullies know that you are not a willing victim that will throw in the towel because they are targeting you to feel strong, to get you to do what they want you too. And believe me... they do NOT want to get caught. Report it, talk to your parents about it and your teachers. This does work.

[Windswept Cloak]

BOTH are equally bad. The real life bullies can hurt you physically and emotionally but go away when you get home; but the cyber bullies theoretically can NEVER go away and can be even more vicious in their taunts because there is no little to no means of policing them.

While I know for a fact that in some nations bullying is considered commonplace and to just be dealt with on a personal level with no teacher interaction; if you live in the USA or Canada (I can't say for certain other nations, sadly) teachers and schools most often WILL help and intervene to help make victims of bullying. My entire school district over ten years ago passed a zero tolerance policy for bullying and deal with bullies HARSHLY (contacting parents, suspension, therapy for both sides, expulsion in some cases - usually in that order) to curb the problem.

The problem is with bullies is that it's rare that anything will change if it isn't reported by the victim or someone else like a teacher. While the saying "have a stiff upper lip" does ring true it shouldn't be done EVERYDAY when you are being TORMENTED.

I know how bad the first year of high school can be, you're awkward and so is most everyone in your class - you're at a new school and you're just figuring things out for yourself. Chances are that you haven't found a good solid friend yet as well, this is all normal. So while you might not have many friends yet that doesn't mean "no one likes you", maybe it's more accurate to say "no one knows me that well". But that chances are in time people will get to know you and find out that you're really great!

It took me until my sophomore year until I had friends, real friends that I would hang out with outside of class.

As for bullying the best advice I can offer is REPORT it. Let those bullies know that you are not a willing victim that will throw in the towel because they are targeting you to feel strong, to get you to do what they want you too. And believe me... they do NOT want to get caught. Report it, talk to your parents about it and your teachers. This does work.

Yeah!

[Angel of the Stars]

Gaaaah, Kanato-kun and I feel eachother's pain!! q^p

Except I really DO know all of the people at school/band right down to their core. But all they see me as is "some optimistic girl that can never get angry or sad".

[Angel of the Stars]

BOTH are equally bad. The real life bullies can hurt you physically and emotionally but go away when you get home; but the cyber bullies theoretically can NEVER go away and can be even more vicious in their taunts because there is no little to no means of policing them.

While I know for a fact that in some nations bullying is considered commonplace and to just be dealt with on a personal level with no teacher interaction; if you live in the USA or Canada (I can't say for certain other nations, sadly) teachers and schools most often WILL help and intervene to help victims of bullying. My entire school district over ten years ago passed a zero tolerance policy for bullying and deal with bullies HARSHLY (contacting parents, suspension, therapy for both sides, expulsion in some cases - usually in that order) to curb the problem.

The problem is with bullies is that it's rare that anything will change if it isn't reported by the victim or someone else like a teacher. While the saying "have a stiff upper lip" does ring true it shouldn't be done EVERYDAY when you are being TORMENTED.

I know how bad the first year of high school can be, you're awkward and so is most everyone in your class - you're at a new school and you're just figuring things out for yourself. Chances are that you haven't found a good solid friend yet as well, this is all normal. So while you might not have many friends yet that doesn't mean "no one likes you", maybe it's more accurate to say "no one knows me that well". But that the chances are in time people will get to know you and find out that you're really great!

It took me until my sophomore year until I had friends, real friends that I would hang out with outside of class.

As for bullying the best advice I can offer is REPORT it. Let those bullies know that you are not a willing victim that will throw in the towel because they are targeting you to feel strong, to get you to do what they want you too. And believe me... they do NOT want to get caught. Report it, talk to your parents about it and your teachers. This does work.

Thank you for the advice. ^-^

But here's something to kind of detail the lines a bit:
I do have friends at the high school. In middle school, I had switched schools about two times, so I know people from... three different schools. So I do have a lot of "friends", but they dont exactly get my delamas.
Also, I'm homeschooled, and I just go there for band. That might be why they see me as an easy target, but I'm not sure..

[Angel of the Stars]

(Posting this just in case): I will not be on for the next hour; I'm taking a dumb Math MAP test~

[Earthshine]

Still the best way to deal with it is to report them to let them know that you will NOT be their victim. They really do get tired of their games quickly if an authority figure gets in the way. Of course not everyone will react as such, if they continue their bullying then there's some serious problems going on with them that additional steps may be necessary (such as your withdrawal).

There are so many factors involved with why bullies pick a certain target and not someone else; everything from body language, differences, hormones to just randomized terror.

[Angel of the Stars]

Thank you very much for the help~ ^-^

[Angel of the Stars]

Idk why I'm asking this, but this may be a factor.

At the beginning of the year/my band year, we had to write out our FULL names on the board for some team excersize thing. And since I have two middle names... maybe their jealous...?
*slowly puts on Hipster glasses* I had two middle names before it was cool.

[Earthshine]

Hmmm... Not sure. There simply is no way to tell what they are thinking unless you have telepathy. It could be, anything is possible.

It could have been that they saw that you were different from them in that you have two middle names and thus you were put on their 'radar'. They noticed you more than the others; and instead of having a positive reaction such as trying to be your friend their feelings were internalized into negativity - marking you as their target.

I don't necessarily think jealousy plays into, but who knows it could be.

[Angel of the Stars]

Again, thank you very much. ^-^